Is Domestic Violence Against Men in Kenya Overlooked?

I recently watched 3rd Marriage, a movie by Ruth Kadiri, and it left me questioning everything I knew about domestic violence. Jaydee, a professional boxer, was mentally, verbally, and physically assaulted by his wife, Angela, but he never fought back because he was trained to hit only when threatened.

Despite his strength, Jaydee was trapped in a toxic marriage, fearing the shame of yet another divorce. Angela staged abuse by injuring herself and screaming for help, falsely framing him as an abuser.

Men Suffering in Silence

Imagine a man walking into a police station to report domestic violence, only to be laughed at by officers. Many men endure silent suffering because society refuses to see them as victims.

The term “narcissist” is casually thrown around, often labeling men while ignoring toxic female partners. Organizations like FIDA provide shelter and legal support for women, but how many actively advocate for abused men?

Double Standards in Domestic Violence Cases

A recent viral video showed a woman attacking her husband with a knife while he defended himself with a cushion. If the roles were reversed, would society react the same way, or would the man be instantly labeled an abuser?

When women are victims, society rallies around them, but men are often ridiculed for speaking out. These double standards make it difficult for men to seek help, leaving many trapped in abusive relationships.

Legal and Social Barriers for Male Victims

While Kenya has laws against domestic violence, most support structures favor women. Police officers often dismiss male victims, assuming they should be strong enough to defend themselves.

Support groups and shelters for abused men are nearly nonexistent, forcing them to endure abuse in silence or walk away with nothing. Without proper legal backing, even proving domestic violence against men is an uphill battle.

Breaking the Silence: A Call for Change

Domestic violence should never be justified, regardless of gender. Men deserve the same protection, support, and legal assistance as women.

More awareness campaigns, shelters, and legal reforms are needed to ensure male victims are taken seriously. Without these changes, many men will continue to suffer in silence.

Are There Enough Protections for Men Facing Domestic Violence?

If a man is abused, where does he turn for help? Do we have enough mechanisms in place to protect men from domestic violence, or are they left to suffer in silence?

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